I was reading an interview with a well-known leader who explained how he never spoke first in meetings. Instead, he always started with a question.
I was immediately reminded of the questions Jesus asked in the New Testament. Some could think of Jesus primarily as a preacher or teacher, but so much of the New Testament records his conversations with individuals. He asked over one hundred questions during these encounters. Here are a few of my favorites:
- Why are you so afraid? (Matthew 8:26)
- Why do you entertain evil thoughts in your hearts? (Matthew 9:4)
- Who do you say I am? (Matthew 16:15)
- What is it you want? (Matthew 20:21)
- What do you want me to do for you? (Mark 10:51)
- Do you want to get well? (John 5:6)
These questions seem pretty straightforward, but they go so much deeper. I spent some time reflecting on each of them in the last few days, and as I ruminated on these questions in my own life, I landed on two things I’d recommend for you that have helped me grow deeper in my relationship with Jesus.
First, consider asking more questions in your relationships with others. Great questions asked in a curious and caring tone can change the nature of the relationships we all have. Now remember, this won’t work if it is a tactic or if you’re not particularly interested in the person or the answer. Instead, you have to engage and have sincere interest in their answers.
Secondly, answer for yourself Jesus’ six questions above. Find a quiet place and take some time to think on them and answer truthfully. Write down your answers (Jesus said if we ask, we will receive). For me, these questions provoked some really hard thinking. Maybe they will do the same for you.
May the Lord bless you and give grace as you grow in your relationship with Him.